Feng Shui For Your Love Life

The first steps to improving your love life with Feng Shui, are to clear the room of any inappropriate influences. Clutter and grime must go, as must anything broken or not working. This includes replacing burned out light bulbs, tightening door handles, oiling hinges, and getting windows unstuck etc. When all of that has been extracted from the bedroom, look at images on the walls and shelves. Remove anything that has an aspect of disagreement, conflict, aggression, sorrow, solitude, loneliness, or hard work. A photo of you lifting a Judo trophy may be wonderful, but not in the bedroom. Next, remove any memorabilia connected with a previous romance. There should be no gifts, letters, clothes, or photos of partners past, in your bedroom. This includes drawers, closets, and under the bed.

There should be no work related paraphernalia in your bedroom either. Keep your desk, computer, legal briefs, students' term papers, and anything else that is work related out of your bedroom. This includes exercise equipment. Your relationships could feel like a tough work out if you are not careful to separate the paraphernalia involved in each.

Double Check that your bedroom door can easily open 90 degrees without obstruction. Otherwise, you aren't allowing the loving opportunities to freely enter.

Having cleared your space of anything that could cause your Qi (pronounced Chi, meaning vital energy) to stagnate and fester, you need to remove some of the things that are not in and of them selves problematic. Why? Because even if they are perfectly acceptable items, the sheer bulk of them takes up too much space. If every centimeter of your bedroom is occupied by something, even a good thing, there's no place for new things to enter and find a niche. To get love and romance into your life, you have to make room for it. Imagine that you found the perfect mate tomorrow. Would you have space for his or her belongings along side your own? Does your bedroom anticipate the addition of someone else's clothes, alarm clock, a place to rest their glasses and the book they'll read to you? Is there space for an other's jewelry and creams? Is there space on the wall for photos of the two of you?

Is your bed placed with one side up against the wall? The person who sleeps on that side may feel an inequality in the relationship, so it is best to place your bed with only the head against a wall, and both sides free. For couples, the orientation of the bed could contribute to marital harmony or the lack there of. It all depends on the "Kua" numbers of each person, and the direction that a person with that number should orient to. For an explanation, read the article entitled The Use of the Kua Chart in Feng Shui. It is relatively easy to apply the principle if you are single, but the bed of a couple is difficult to place if one person should orient West and the other should orient East. This can be solved with the following compromise. One person gets their direction for the room's placement within the house. The other person gets their direction for the placement and orientation of the bed within the room. In this way, both people are auspiciously oriented, at least in half of the the possible opportunities to do so, which should work to offset the 1/2 that is inauspicious for each of them.

Now that you have made space and cleared out the physical, emotional, and spiritual baggage, ring a bell, or clap your hands loudly in all the spaces that have been holding stagnant Qi. This helps to get it moving and disperse.

Next, walk slowly from your front door to your bedroom door. Imagine that you are a gentle river of Qi entering your home, and flowing towards your bedroom door. Remove obstacles that are blocking this supply of vital force, by moving furniture out of the way, removing clutter and grime, and by lighting any dark corners. Creating a path where the Qi can flow unobstructed, and without slowing down or stagnating, will encourage love and romance to enter your bedroom. Along this path, be on the look out for places where the Qi is diverted to other areas of the home.

One of the most important things you can do when you have a clean, free flowing course for the Qi to enrich your life, is to specify what you wish it to bring you. Enter your bedroom. Which wall do you see first? Put a beautiful romantic piece of art there. Images featuring pairs are especially good for this. It can be a pair of swans, or a hand in an other's hand, anything that celebrates togetherness in harmony. Place another such image where you'll see it when in bed, looking past the foot of the bed to the opposite wall. The perfect piece of art to put there, may be a collage you yourself make.

A single person should fill the collage with images of the qualities he or she is looking for in a mate, and in a relationship. Couples can co-create a collage to visualize their goals for the relationship. Clarifying your intentions this way, and having a constant reminder of them while lying in bed, is a great way to attract love and romance into your life, and to nurture that into a harmonious and stable relationship.